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Monday, March 21, 2016

What I Wish I Knew About Blogging Then

What I Wish I Knew About Blogging Then

Life has thrown me a curve ball recently; first my Grandmother had a stroke (she is on her way to recovery and should be home, later this week) and my brother suffered a severe allergic reaction, needless to say it has been 7 days of worry and hospital visits but it sure has put things into perspective. Yes blogging is both my job and passion, but in a time of crisis I can assure you it is one of the last things on your mind. I did also get to thinking what would I tell myself five years ago, when just starting out and what blogging mistakes do I vow to never repeat.

What I Wish I Knew About Blogging Then

1, Life happens - a tough lesson I have learnt over the years, work/a hobby is not everything and there will come a time where you will have to prioritise. I of course do not know what is important to you but for me it is my family and our health - if I need to step away from my blog for a few days so be it, that does not make me nor you a bad blogger nor person. It is important to keep in mind that sooner or later, life has a way of smoothing things out and eventually things will fall back into place.

2, A day off is not a failure - up until this year I would beat myself up if I didn't have several posts live each day, sometimes missing out on sleep and dare I say it, life. That is no way to live, yes keeping to a schedule is important but as point one suggests life may get in the way. Yes I do like to have posts scheduled, ready-to-go daily but should I miss the odd day here or there, I'm not going to stress myself out over it - heck there are 5,000 plus posts on this site to catch up on.

3, You'll never be fully happy - you may have noticed that I change blog layouts and photo backgrounds fairly regularly, this is not a criticism of any of the wonderful blog designers I have worked with, rather it is because I get bored easily. Sooner or later you will too, be it with your blog name, content or photos but the good news is that on the most part you can change them around with ease, and worrying about such aspects shows that you truly care about your blog. What I will say is that you shouldn't let it grind you down, behind every blog there is a fickle person wondering what they could do next to improve their site.

4, Stop comparing yourself to others - it is so easy to look at another person be it a blogger or not and wish you had the same level of success as they do, or the picture perfect life for that matter. What it isn't easy to see is what goes on behind the scenes to become successful: the hard-work, comprise and general grit. You can't measure your level of success based on what someone else has achieved, by all means look upon others for inspiration but don't waste time wishing to be someone other than yourself.

5, It's okay to say no - don't worry about offending a brand or company by declining the offer of product/sponsored post/event invitation. If you don't feel it is fitting of your brand/style by all means say no - every opportunity should be mutually beneficial and if you don't put your blog/you first no-one else will. 
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28 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing this, I can relate to it all and it's so important to think about taking days off and putting yourself above the blog!

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  2. Thank you for posting this! I wish I knew this before I started blogging! We all need to learn that taking a step back from it all is sometimes good for us, as well as it's not good for us to compare ourselves and our blogs to others.

    So thanks for this little boost on a Monday! :)
    Kathryn

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  3. This is super helpful - especially the last one! It's always really intimidating to say no to brand.

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  4. Thank you for this. I hope everything is well with your Grandma and Brother.

    I have effeminately put work first sometimes and missed out on time I will never get back. I now make sure to prioritize better for myself because you can never get that back and the regret is not worth it.

    Robyn | RobynLouiiise

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  5. Oh my goodness! Amen! You are writing directly at me. I am always changing my blog design. I always feel bad because it's not the designers fault, it's me. I am so fickle and my style is constantly changing. This is why I love makeup so much! I can apply makeup and be a different person everyday!

    Hope your grandmother and brother get better asap. Sending hugs your way. xo

    Mel | www.thegossipdarling.com

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  7. Thank you for posting this - even if you're like me and new to the blogging world, I think it's important to remember to give yourself a break, a chance to step back.

    I hope both your brother and grandmother are on their way to speedy recoveries!

    Erin | www.wanderniche.com

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  8. I love this list! I totally only post on the blog two to four days a week. I also only write my posts one or two days a week and schedule them all.

    S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

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  9. I hope your family is okay chick!!
    It can get so hard when things get in the way of blogging but you have got to put the important stuff first and dont be too hard on yourself


    CharlotteSamantha // www.charlottesamantha.co.uk

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  10. I always beat myself up if I have a day off/miss a post - I know I shouldn't put out something less because I panic, days off are OKAY

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Beauty Wellbeing

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  11. I love reading this post! I wish I also knew not to compare myself to others- you sohuld do your best and love your blog!

    xx, A Little Dose of Makeup

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  12. This is a great list! I only just started blogging recently and reading these types of posts really help because I feel like I'm able to learn through other peoples journeys and apply it to my own blogging journey! :)

    Kathy
    www.alongcamekathy.blogspot.co.nz

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  13. Thank you for sharing. I know a time will come when it will be my family vs my blog, and I know which decision I will make. Its good to have things in perspective, and understand there is more to life than this... as much as it is fun and fufilling!

    http://www.makeerinover.co.uk

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  14. I really needed to read this today! I took the weekend off and ran late on my blog post this morning because of it. I woke up upset with myself for not getting my work done in time, but I know I needed those days off after a crazy week. Thanks for sharing the much needed advice!

    Krystal | http://floradelsoul.com/

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  15. Great tips! I could do well to remember these - I am just so unmotivated at the moment with been so busy :( xx
    alicekatex

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  16. Sounds like life has been pretty rough for you lately! I hope you're doing alright and everyone is well on the road to recovery! Sending hugs and positive vibes! This was a great post, really good points that I think we all need to keep in mind! :) xx

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  17. I find I compare myself to other bloggers quite a lot. I blog because I enjoy it and I like making new friends but I cant help but compare myself to others who have more followers or who are more popular. I've also started getting round the fact that if I do miss one day of posting, it doesn't mean I've failed so you're definitely spot on! Thank you for such a helpful post!

    www.beautylabs93.wordpress.com

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  18. I can seriously relate to so much of this, but I've finally got back into my blogging and have stopped beating myself up for my time off. Definitely feel a lot better about it all knowing I'm not alone in that area.

    Ouremptyjournal.blogspot.co.uk

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  19. I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother and brother, but I'm happy that things are working out!

    I know what you mean about not comparing ourselves to others...when I first started blogging, I wanted to quit every single time I came across somebody whose blog was so much more beautiful than mine. Eventually, however, I learned to my love my blog and my less polished style; after all, there's plenty of room for everybody! :o)
    ChicAndAlluring.com

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  20. Such good advice! I think far too many people (myself included sometimes) feel the pressure of blogging because they want to be a success and end up missing out on other important stuff. Becoming a mummy recently has made me realise that whilst I love my blog and enjoy doing it, it's not my top priority anymore! Hope your grandmother and brother are okay. Sending good thoughts your way xx

    Seek My Scribbles

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  21. Saying 'no' really was a revelation for me :) I've learnt to be discerning with what I put on my blog and if I don't have a gap in my schedule for a review of the product or it doesn't fit with my current direction, I don't do it. I definitely agree about life sometimes getting in the way too - that's where I'm at right now and I'm trying to remind myself that this isn't a job and I can take a break when I want :) great post, I can relate to a lot of it xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

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  22. Great advice! My blog is still an infant, but I do enjoy the learning experience it has provided thus far. My biggest weakness is my photos, but I don't let that get me down. Rather, I allow it to empower me to practice even more!

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  23. Number one is definitely me! Sometimes with my job, as well as my friends and family, my blog can be neglected and ignored. Sometimes to not even have anything that great published. It sucks, yes. But I have a life at the end of the day!

    https://theremightbecoffee.wordpress.com/

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  24. I think it's important to remember that this is a hobby for most of us. Not having a post every day or not commenting every day is not the end of the world. Hope everything is better soon!

    Nereyda│ This Girl Is Obsessed

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  25. Glad to hear your granny is recovering. Hope everything goes well with your brother! It is refreshing to read this from you, I think what you said easily applies to the youtube world and its inspiring. <3

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  26. Oh gosh, so sorry to hear about your Grandma + Brother! Hope their recoveries are indeed very speedy <3

    Katina | www.katinalindaa.com

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  27. This is so true! Hope family get better soon x

    Tanzina | Makeup A to Z | http://makeupatoz.com/

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  28. Wow I really like your tips! http://beautystanbul.blogspot.com.tr/

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